Summer Break and Co-Parenting

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Summer break is a fun and exciting time for kids, but it can make co-parenting complicated. School is out, schedules are different, and there can be uncertainty during this time. In this blog, we will discuss some tips on how to work through co-parenting during summer break. 

1) Establish A Co-Parenting Summer Schedule:

Creating a co-parenting summer schedule in advance can help establish clear expectations and minimize conflicts. Coordinate with your ex-spouse to determine the best way to divide summer activities, vacations, and time with the children. Having a summer schedule in place from the beginning will provide structure and ensure that both parents get quality time with the kids.

Starting early and planning ahead can prevent potential conflicts. Collaborate with your co-parent to create a detailed schedule that includes specific dates, times, and locations for each parent’s time with the children. It may be beneficial to provide your children with a set calendar for the summer. This clarity will help manage expectations and provide the children with a sense of security and routine during this potentially chaotic time.

2) Have a Routine:

One of the best ways to ensure that you’re able to manage work and family time during the summer is to create a schedule for yourself. Set aside certain days for work, family time, and other activities so that everyone knows what to expect. This will help you stay organized and make sure that everyone is able to get the attention they need.

Involving the children in making decisions can empower them and reduce potential anxiety. Allow them to express their preferences for certain activities they wish to do, or their preferences for their routine. Maybe they want to see their grandparents once a week or spend every Friday at Dad’s house. They might enjoy summer camp, time with friends, a planned movie outing, or a scheduled vacation. By including them in the decision-making process, you reinforce their sense of belonging and ensure their summer is enjoyable.

3) Communicate With Your Ex:

Communication is key to co-parenting. Talk to your ex about how you’re going to split up the kids’ summer activities and who will be responsible for what. This will help make sure that neither of you is stuck with the majority of the work or financial burden. Keep your communication focused and the scheduling of kids’ summer activities easier by using a parenting app. Parenting apps can make parenting after divorce a lot easier for both you and your ex. 

Being flexible is key to successful co-parenting during the summer. Unexpected situations may arise, plans might need to be adjusted, or new opportunities may present themselves. Make an effort to be accommodating and develop a shared understanding that sometimes changes are necessary for the benefit of the children. A little flexibility and compromise can go a long way in creating a positive summer for everyone involved.

4) Set Boundaries:

It’s important to set boundaries with your children and your ex to make sure that everyone is respectful of each other’s time and space. For example, if your ex-spouse unexpectedly asks if they can take the children for an extended period or rearrange the schedule, calmly but firmly assert the boundaries that have been established. You can respond by calmly reiterating the agreed-upon plan and explaining that it’s essential for the children to have this dedicated family time. 

It is important to remember that summer is a special time for children, and not dealing with parental or personal conflicts. Put any animosity aside and focus on what will make the summer enjoyable for your children. This may require compromise, flexibility, and recognizing the importance of the other parent’s role in the children’s lives.

If you need help adjusting your parenting schedule this summer, contact us at the Drake Law Firm today by calling 720-928-2381.

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